Jenna went on a date with her second favorite, but learned that he had lied about his age and was actually outside her range. She enjoyed his company but felt that the deception was a dealbreaker, as was the age difference.
Bachelor #3 fizzled. Perhaps he met someone else, or lost interest for some other reason. In any case, he unmatched Jenna when it came time to make a plan.
Jenna’s first stands out from all other contenders. They have great convos, and it’s clear that he’s genuinely interested in more than something casual. He is also the guy Jenna was most attracted to from the start, out of all her right swipes. He has planned a fun date, and Jenna is very excited (and a bit nervous). Could this be the one? Time will tell.
Here are the key things we learned about Tinder:
Don’t be too picky up front.
Jenna doesn’t know how many times she swiped right exactly, but it was clearly more than 55 times. She included guys who were “cute” and “pretty cute” in addition to the ones she thought were really hot.
Jenna was also strongly swayed by the subject matter in the pics. Guys with dogs or children got the benefit of the doubt. She also favored guys engaging in some form of athletics in at least one of their photos.
You can always eliminate a match later on, so go for maximum results early on. It will give you confidence and give you a better basis for comparison.
Filtering is key.
About 20-25% of the guys just want sex. That means that 75% of the guys are open to a relationship. People are on Tinder for various reasons, and it’s in their best interest to make their intentions clear early.
It’s easy to eliminate the players at any point in the process, no questions asked. Jenna did not give her cell number to anyone who had not clearly indicated he was looking to date. She blocked the guy who got douchey with push-pull toward the end.
Unless you get zero matches all matches are promising.
Tinder opened up a huge number of possibilities for Jenna. She couldn’t come close to those results with a traditional online dating site, going to bars, parties, etc. But even if she’d gotten just one good match, she had still met someone new. And of course she could always do another round of Tindering.
Once you whittle down the number of guys, their faces are not as important.
Use the conversations to discern intent, character, intelligence, and other traits that are important to you.
There’s no real downside to Tinder.
It’s not terribly time consuming, and Jenna enjoyed it a lot. If her date with Top Guy doesn’t work out, she’s going to go right back and try again.
I’d like to develop this into a Tinder Strategy that people can apply easily. I would love to hear your thoughts!
Does Jenna’s experience surprise you? Have you used Tinder?
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